Tonight with Smash on in the background I was trying to multi-task and come up with something cute, clever, and easy to write about for love day tomorrow. I asked Babe if he had any ideas, he said I have something. I quickly handed him the computer, never wanting to pass up an opportunity for him to sponsor this space.
Happy Valentine’s Day to you.
I’m mixing things up for Love Day this year. In the past, I’ve always sent my wife flowers. Always to work. Always before lunch. Always with a very short but meaningful note reaffirming my love and respect for our star blogger. Admittedly, not very original. But I knew how she liked to show them off to co-workers and students. And I could imagine how they must have brightened her classroom. I would wait all day for the “surprise” e-mail, even though it wasn’t much of a surprise at all. But it made me smile and filled her with joy.
Now my wife is at home. She has 4 little ones chasing at her feet. And when they’re not pulling at her shirt, they’re pulling other things — like flowers — from counters, tables, and anything else “in the way”. Since life has changed, my gift giving is changing with it.
For Valentine’s Day this year, I’m giving my family the gift of personal sacrifice. And I’m giving it to her in this format because she loves her blog and all of you. And, well, I need to be held accountable — so here’s my public announcement.
Like most, I have many bad habits. Frankly, more than I’d like to admit. And since I don’t want you to think less of my wife for marrying me, I’m not giving you a list. For all my bad habits, however, there’s an easy “no 1″ that drives my wife crazy. INSANE. It’s not close and she’s blogged about it before, even though she was kind enough not to blow my cover. I’m not a smoker, but it’s a tobacco habit. It’s horribly gross, embarrassing, and unfortunately, incredibly addictive. We have certain rules about this habit. Never around the kids (goes without saying), no traces around the house, not around strangers, etc. I’m pretty good about the rules, it’s always been a fair trade. But, with that said, it’s unfair. To my wife, my boys, and my beautiful daughters. When I do it, I not only embarrass myself but I risk embarrassing them. And it’s dangerous. I love my family too much to take unnecessary risks. The world is crazy enough, I can do without this. So, family, happy V-Day. I’m giving up the lippers (even the slang is gross). My wife, and close friends, will appreciate how difficult this will be. I made the decision a week ago and enjoyed my final one while watching Band of Brothers on DVD tonight. Of course, it’s only 10:30, so maybe one more.… Nah, no time like the present. The sentimental stuff can wait another day, giving this gift to my family cannot. Love you all.
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16 Responses to a valentine from my sponsor
Sudie
Replied on: March 7, 2012, 9:04 PM
WOW!!!! God bless this wonderful decision… give “Babe” strentgh! XOXO
Runnermom-jen
Replied on: February 19, 2012, 2:52 PM
Oh my goodness! Beautiful writing, and I can relate as my husband gave up the stuff about 4 years ago. He went through a tin a day, and had the help of Chantix to quit…but I’m so grateful to him for giving it up!!
What a truly wonderful gift
Jay- The Dude of the House
Replied on: February 14, 2012, 5:53 PM
Wow, that is quite a gift. I hope it’s not too painful of a process. I was just reading about Tony Gwynn today, who dipped for 30+ years and is now paying the price and it’s not pretty. Wishing your sponsor a smooth transition and you a Happy V-day.
Jamie
Replied on: February 14, 2012, 9:30 PM
I just watched the Tony Gwynn story. Somehow I missed that over the summer. Thanks for sharing. That will certainly stick with me. Everyone liked Tony. Even as a Reds fan, you had to respect a guy who won 8 batting titles, played his entire career with one team, and did it all with a smile.
Molly
Replied on: February 14, 2012, 2:54 PM
Awesome-way to go!!! Can you convince you know who to do the same? Puh-lease?!
Jamie
Replied on: February 14, 2012, 9:28 PM
Maybe he’ll be the motivation he needs!
julie gardner
Replied on: February 14, 2012, 10:58 AM
Oh wow.
Jamie, I wish you both luck in this (but especially Babe) because it will be incredibly hard. Tobacco is an asshole and really tough to quit in any form.
Here’s some virtual strength sent your way.
And love to take off the edge.
Keep us posted…
XO
p.s. Yay Band of Brothers. LOVE that show. I know. Off topic. Carry on.
Jamie
Replied on: February 14, 2012, 9:28 PM
He’s hooked on it… the show I mean. Well, the asshole too but I started with the show…
One day down!
Alison@Mama Wants This
Replied on: February 14, 2012, 9:35 AM
There’s nothing better than a gift from the heart and a sacrifice.
Jamie, you’ve got a keeper there!
Jamie
Replied on: February 14, 2012, 9:27 PM
I do!
Kir
Replied on: February 14, 2012, 7:39 AM
Oh wow, he’s a keeper Jamie!!!! Doing something like that for your family…that is prettier, sweeter and more long lasting than flowers.
good for all of you!
Jamie
Replied on: February 14, 2012, 9:32 PM
I thought so too! Thanks Kir!
Melinda
Replied on: February 14, 2012, 1:12 AM
Didn’t expect that one! Congrats! Xx
Jamie
Replied on: February 14, 2012, 9:33 PM
Me neither!
Greta
Replied on: February 13, 2012, 11:23 PM
Good for you!! I’m wishing you ALL the luck during the incredibly tough period you’re about to go through. I’d be willing to bet that there’s nothing Jamie would want more.
Jamie
Replied on: February 14, 2012, 9:31 PM
Thanks Greta! One day down… hopefully the hardest for him!